Breakups can be rough, and even if amicable, no one wants to go through them. The loss of your relationship can bring on intense heartache and stress. Here are some helpful suggestions to get through it.
Think about the relationship thoroughly – Do not obsess about the broken relationship, instead think about how to avoid the same kind of relationship problems in the future.
Digest the pain – its okay to feel like you have messed up, or you might feel rejected if it was your partner that ended the relationship. Of course, a stage of denial is completely natural, but acceptance is the key to being able to start moving on.
Deal with the hate phase – When your rage feels boundless and you feel resentment towards your ex for wasting your time, you might even feel anger towards yourself, but all of this is just wasting your energy and time. Don’t rip yourself apart over something you no longer have the power to change.
Talk to your friends – Surround yourself with people who love you. Compassionate and supportive friends will help you see yourself as a worthwhile person and it will help you to get steady on your feet again.
Write your feelings down – When writing down your feelings, sometimes you will be amazed by a sudden insight that comes to you. No relationship is ever a failure if you manage to learn something about yourself.
Make a list of reminders – Make a list of things that show you why your ex was not the one for you. When you miss your ex in a weak moment, read through this list.
Get organized – A breakup can be a new beginning. Clean and organize your personal space. It will leave you refreshed and prepared for new things to come.
Remove memory triggers – There will be all kinds of things that will remind you of your ex. It could be a song, a smell, a book or a garment. Walk around your house, visiting each room with a box and remove all the things that remind you of your ex.
Find happiness in other areas of your life – Indulge in activities that you enjoy whether it is reading a book, watching a movie or going for a walk.
Stay active – Speaking of walking, exercise improves your mood and alleviates depression. The distraction will get your mind of your situation.
Let go of the negative emotions – There is no benefit holding onto heartache, regret and hatred. Congratulate yourself that you were brave enough to fall in love, and encourage your heart that even if it did not work out this time, there will always be a next time, no matter how old you are.
Live your life – If you are uptight and depressed about past relationships you will not find anyone new. Be happy and confident. It is very attractive to be a happy, positive person.