Are you focusing on your life and what makes you happy? Or are you constantly busy getting your nose into other people’s business and neglecting your own? The following issues should be your reality check. Leave other people and their business alone! Do your best, mind your own business, become the best that you that you can possibly be by finding your future and finding your peace within you and not within other people’s ongoing dramas. You can have a quality life, but with all good things you need to invest time to make it better. Don’t waste your time and energy on other people’s business if it has nothing to do with you. Stop judging other people’s lives and invest more time in your own.
Get your nose out of:
1. How much your friends earn per month. – Will you like them more if they earn a big salary?
2. What kind of junk food your friends eat. – Your friend’s lives in their bodies, they need to take control when they deem it necessary.
3. Whether your friends exercise regularly or not. – Same as eating, your friends are the deciders of what goes into their mouths.
4. What your friends have bought recently. – So what if they spent a lot of money on something that you regard as unnecessary. You don’t have to worry about their bills.
5. How many times a month your friends have a braai. – So what if they braai every weekend. If that is how they chill out, why not enjoy the moment with them.
6. How often your friends entertain people at their house. – If they have the time, money and energy to entertain regularly why are you questioning them?
7. How many times your friends go for a salon manicure. – Is this any of your business?
8. Where your friend is going to for a holiday. – It is their vacation time, their money and their decision. Don’t tell them the place of your choice is better.
9. Who your friends decide to enter into a relationship with. – Are you the one getting cuddled by their other half? Stop it and let them be.
10. What your friends have studied and whether it is a degree or diploma course. – Does this make any difference if you like them or not? I bet nobody really cares. You like them for who they are don’t you?
11. How often your friends go to church. – Since when are you an angel? Don’t judge.
12. How much alcohol your friends consume. – If they are mature enough to realize when to stop you don’t have to concern yourself with this.
13. What kind of books/movies your friends are into. – So you like romantic comedies and your friends prefer fantasy, action movies or animation. Is this a friendship breaker? Let it go.
14. How often your friends make contact with their family. – They need to take responsibility for their relationships with their family. If they are avoiding their family, just leave them alone. They might have a pretty good reason for doing so. You are not the family advocate.
15. How much your friends spend on groceries. – So what if they buy from the most expensive store and splash out on luxury items. Be your own financial advisor. Not theirs.
16. If your friends are saving any money or just spending their whole salary every month. – So you want to plan their pension now? I think it their prerogative.
17. Which illness/ailment your friends currently have. – Give support but don’t play doctor. Also, don’t try to tell them that their doctor made a wrong diagnosis and you know a better doctor/ treatment. What did you study anyway?
18. Your friends’ dress sense. – If they want to walk around a pair of old faded jeans and a stretched-out t-shirt, what is it to you? Make sure that you look respectable and leave their choices to themselves.
19. Your friends’ sleeping habits. – So they don’t get enough sleep. Is this keeping you awake at night?
20. Your friends’ life choices. – Whether your friends want to go and travel for a year, become a naturopath or study to become a lawyer, it is not you that will need to pack, practice or study. Let them do the work.
Always remember that sometimes friends will need your support. You will know when you need to interfere, help or give advice because they will ask you. Feel free to give them support during trying times, but when they are on their merry way to old age, regardless whether you think it’s the right way or not, just let them be. Have fun with them, respect them, trust them and love them.
“Oh, I’m sorry. I didn’t realize you were an expert on my life and how I should live it. Please continue while I take notes.” – Hussein Nashah